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Meet Tanya

Break Up Therapist & Coach for Men

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Rediscover Your Confidence & Self-Worth

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Regain Your Clarity
& Direction

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Design a Future That Excites You

My Story

In early 2022, I went through a significant breakup after a five-year relationship that was deeply transformational. We had built a life together—living in a small one-bedroom apartment, routinely engaged in personal development work, and sharing practices like meditation, yoga, psychotherapy and sacred ceremonial work. We traveled together, at times worked together, and in many ways, our lives were intertwined. But what I didn’t realise until months after the breakup was how much of myself I had lost in the process.

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Our relationship was beautiful and in many ways, profound. But over time, I became so focused on my partner—his needs, his growth, his journey—that I stopped looking after myself. There was a constant underlying anxiety that I struggled to recognise because I had become so absorbed in our dynamic. I wasn’t nurturing my needs, and without realising it, I had lost touch with many of the things that made me, me. Often this tends to happen in relationships—especially when we feel so deeply connected to the other. It’s easy to fall into a pattern where your partner becomes your best friend, your therapist, your travel companion, your support system, your family, your world. But that’s where it also gets risky.

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After the breakup, I continued living in the apartment we shared, but for the first time in years, I had space—physical and emotional space—to reconnect with myself. Meditation became my anchor. I developed a daily meditation practice, and in those moments, I started to remember what it felt like to just be with myself. Slowly, I began to realise how disconnected I had been from my own energy. I was rediscovering parts of myself that were previously hidden and lying dormant.

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In that stillness, I reflected on how much I had neglected my own self-care and well-being during the relationship. I saw clearly some of the patterns of codependency that had formed. I had fixated on my partner as a way to avoid looking at myself, and it wasn’t until I was alone that I could really feel the weight of that enmeshment. It was a sharp and powerful realisation. I knew I couldn’t go back to living the way I had been.

​While incredibly difficult, I recognised the break up was also an enormous gift. It gave me the space to reclaim my energy, my identity, and my professional ambition. For months, I had felt drained—exhausted from trying to balance my work, my studies, and the emotional labor of the relationship. But once the dynamic was no longer consuming my life, I felt an enormous sense of freedom. I started to ask myself, What do I really want? How do I want to live? And for the first time in a long time, I had the energy, clarity and motivation to act. I moved to Melbourne, a decision I had been considering for months but didn’t feel possible while I was still in the relationship. The breakup opened up space for me to listen to, and follow my own path.

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Breaking away from an enmeshed relationship was not just a personal journey—it became the foundation of my drive for helping others through therapy. I understand what it's like to lose yourself in someone else. I know the feeling of being untethered after a breakup and the challenges of rediscovering who you are outside of a relationship. And I know how powerful and liberating it can feel to finally come home to yourself.

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Why men? Well, while I was studying, I worked for Lifeline, Australia's largest suicide prevention helpline. During my time here, I spoke to countless men who had been greatly suffering in silence. They would often reach out when things had really escalated—when they were feeling lonely and isolated or in the depths of chronic depression. It really struck me how difficult it is for many men to seek support and express their emotions, and I realised that there is still a significant gap in the mental health space, especially when it comes to men and the unique obstacles they face. Many men I spoke to were dealing with breakups, feeling lost and disconnected, but didn’t know how to navigate the emotional aftermath. It made me recognise just how much this work is needed.

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Breakups can be a radical catalyst for transformation, if you allow them to be. I’ve seen firsthand how these moments of transition can help people rediscover themselves, rebuild their lives, and tap into parts of themselves they may have forgotten. I’m here to help guide others through that process—whether you're feeling lost, unsure of your next steps, or simply looking for support as you navigate the pain of a breakup. My role is to help you see that this pain doesn’t have to be defining. It may just be the very thing that leads you to a deeper sense of self, purpose, and personal empowerment.

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This is why I do what I do. I understand the path because I’ve maneuvered it, many times. I’ve felt the confusion, the grief, and the newfound sense of liberation that often follows the integration of loss. And now, I’m here to help others navigate their own journeys, so they can emerge stronger, more connected to themselves, and ready to embrace the next chapter of their lives.

The Details

  • Graduate Diploma of Counselling
    ACAP
     

  • One Year Training Program in Narrative Therapy
    The Dulwich Centre
     

  • Bachelor of Communications, Journalism
    University of Western Sydney

     

  • Certified Practising Counsellor
    PACFA 

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Ready to Turn Your Breakup Into a Breakthrough?

This isn’t about just getting over a breakup. It’s about reclaiming your power, rediscovering your identity, and building a life that’s stronger and more aligned with who you really are. Ready to get started?
 

Let’s take this journey together.

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